People have told me some pretty strange things when I tell them my children were abused by their adopted brother.  One of the more offensive offerings is–at least your sons were not abused.  Huh?

I believe this statement comes out of some pretty destructive mythology:

opposite sex molestation is better??? NO!  All sexual abuse is criminal rape.

male victims of sexual abuse are more likely to offend?? No!!!  So much stigma is attached to abuse that statistics are wildly unreliable.  Pedophiles are shameless liars and their victims feel constrained to silence because of stigma.

Sexual abuse leads to homosexuality???? NO!!  Again, no reliable data and if you look at victims of abuse of both genders it is doubtful that they would say gender-attraction choices were attached to abuse either way.

So what does this have to do with Corey Feldman? 

I am extremely grateful for his candor.  I am glad he has spoken out about what happened to him and others because it helps to let other children, especially boys know that what happened to them was NOT THEIR FAULT.

And as for Sea?  He would self-identify as a heterosexual virgin even though he raped children.  He sexually abused both boys and girls and for the record molested babies and animals as well.

That is uniformly predatory and very difficult to talk about.

I am grateful for Mr. Feldman because he is one more person who has helped to break the silence.