went through a period of their lives where they were only seen in public wearing masks. Like Mardi Gras style, not surgical. During this same period of time we had two very loud and frequently prone to public tantrum foster/adopted children. I thought one way to distance myself from their outbursts would have been to put them in Mardi Gras masks and if they started to misbehave I could shrug and say I was just babysitting MJ’s kids. Poor MJ’s kids, they always looked perfectly well behaved.
After Jackson’s untimely death I thought about his children a lot. I know they must be grieving so. And yet their father was such a strange character often noteworthy for his outlandish behavior and appearance, but at one point most notorious for the allegations of abuse of young boys.
More victims.
Sometimes I want to tell these kids en masse, you are not alone. You would be surprised how many ordinary kids just like you have suffered through abuse feeling alone and “different” when you are not the different one, you are simply the victim of a crime. A kind of crime that should be first prevented and then punished if prevention doesnt work. But once someone has been identified as a child molester, they should never, never be alone with children again.
They have already proven that they are not safe and not trustworthy the very first time they abuse
Carrying Light 
You are absolutely right. If identified as a child molester they should NEVER be alone with children! People have no idea the life long struggle a victim goes through. Some victims never tell and live to 80 and 90 with a warped spirit that impacts most of what they do. When sacred territory in a child is trampled and then the action minimized, damages will be compounded with the “just fix it and go on,” or “God wants us to forgive” crowd who have no idea what they are talking about. There is a process. It starts with identify. The process of healing then moves through a lifetime of progress. Complete healing will be in heaven. I know this. My father was molested as a young boy in a boarding school on the mission field. I have often wondered who he would have been had this not happened?
I cried when I read about your dad. It is too heartbreaking and terrible to think of a boy at a mission school getting hurt like that!!! One of the reasons I am being so noisy about all of this is because of what you said–the forgive crowd don’t give victims a path thru grief and anger and victims need so much support. How can they do it in buried silence? It breaks my heart.
Thank you! B