Why revenge is not sweet

For at least. a few months after I found out my children had been hurt by their adopted brother I would admit to other people that I had a desire to take him to a roadhouse down the street, announce his crimes and then close the door on him. I do not admit this with any pride, I tell this story because it is one step toward forgiveness.

There are things he could have done and can still do that are worse.

There are things he did which keep me up at night searching for answers.

And all humans are a rum bunch. Let’s be honest.

I am tired of reading about children being hurt. The more prolonged and grievous the hurt, the less I want to face it. But I do and I pray.

And I understand the wild and violent response people have toward the disembodied child abuser. The only problem is our wild cries for blood are not effective. And our response to real abusers is often muted and myopic.

My first question is–why not shut down NASA?

I know, you worry about all the unemployed astronauts, I would too if I did not already have a plan. Let’s take these extremely smart people preoccupied with the elusive quest for martian scat and put them onto the task of keeping children safe–ending child abuse.

You know–like the repair scene in Apollo 13 only with children not tubes.

Stop telling me you want some hairy inmate to put a beat down on those who harm children, call your congressman and tell him you want infanticide eradicated. Call your pastor and tell him you want to start a parenting group. Call the police if you hear a baby crying in a way that suggests abuse, not gas.

Do something to change the world. Because if you are leaving all this to the lawless to sort out, well don’t be surprised when all that is left is the wreckage of a country that might once have been safe for children.

6 thoughts on “Why revenge is not sweet

  1. I think I have my eyes open, and yet I do not see. I think it might even take more than having eyes open. Maybe we (I) need to look for abuse and harm, to seek to find it. Would you say that is true? There is one parent who invites for play-dates whom I do not trust with my kids, and I don’t know why. I honestly cannot articulate a reason why. It’s a gut feeling and that’s all. Investigate the gut? Don’t even have a clue how to do that.

    • Trust your gut–no need for a reason. But also shop our story with your kids, casually ask them about what they do away from you and remember predators don’t wear signs on ther foreheads. They hide their darkness well

      That is the scary part.

  2. Well, I’ve ignored the father’s request to set up a playdate. I wonder and worry about his daughter. But that’s all, just wonder and worry.

    Rumor (and it’s just a rumor) has it that he may be involved with the mob, his wife (not rumored, but details unknown) has serious mental illness, and he openly has a relationship with someone not his wife (again, details unknown). And then there’s the un-pin-pointable “other” thing that tells me I can’t trust this person. So there’s the smoke. Lots of smoke.

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