Protecting the guilty?

Viola Davis has recently joined the long list of celebrities who have spoken out against sexual assault–rape, often in the context of their own victimization.

I could write a list of the men and women who have helped other victims by speaking out as sexual assault survivors.  I could not give you a list of the names of the perps.

Why?

The ongoing controversy surrounding abuse allegations made by Corey Haim before his death gives us some clues–

  • Victims are often related to their perps
  • The perp has power in the community
  • Fear of exposure 
  • Fear of legal action

And yet if we are honest, we all have a list–the creepy uncle, the duplicitous coach, the father who harms his own child, a neighbor, a brother-in-law, a once-beloved actor.  People we know abused someone because that someone said so, maybe at great personal cost, maybe with no positive protection of the law.

Keeping silent about predators gives them freedom to continue to abuse.  

So here, a name–

My adopted son is short, overweight, ginger, born February of  1994.  Last I heard he worked at the automotive center at a Walmart in Kansas City, KS. His name is Charles Allen Lee.

He has sexually abused very young children.  He has exhibited cruelty toward animals.  He can be very persuasive and does not tell the whole truth.

And if you asked him about me?  If you ask him about me he will tell you I just bring the drama.

And if you ask him about him?  He will not tell you the whole truth.

…because the whole truth is…

Devastating.

What makes you mad?

Twice today I encountered people who expressed their extreme annoyance at service people.

The first situation involved late food and lukewarm fries and the second involved prescriptions at a pharmacy.

The workers of the world were having a tough day.

I was struck by the gumption it takes to tell a stranger off.

Which led me to remember who we do not confront:

When was the last time you berated a pedophile? When was the last time you raised your voice against a rapist? When was the last time you made a stink about child abuse?

I ask because over the last few years I have watched a lot–lots and lots of people be very polite to some pretty bad men.

It seems to be easy to rant at a waiter or pharm tech, but much, much harder to confront real evil.

…at some point, being so very polite to evil might be a sin of its own. A grievous sin of omission.

Goodbye Baby

If I had the picture still
I would be sure to send it to you
The one that survived the fire, your father’s wrath

I know
It is all mythological
Just Zeus
Arguing about what he had for dinner
Who,
Who he had for dinner

Her first words
Carefully recorded by the state of Pennsylvania–

Charles, I am going to kick your ass

Hardly appropriate words for a lullaby

Ask him how your mother lost her
Teeth
Children, like soldiers sewn in a field

You cannot redeem
Yourself
Your life
The smallest act of violence

The crickets and amphibian victims
Of your pitiless mind

Mind your manners broken boy–

Lung cancer is the last stigmatized
Cancer

You say you smoke too much

Too many
Too many victims

Goodbye baby
Read Dante or John
The Beloved for how this will end

Without me.